Things do not change; we change.
~ Henry David Thoreau
Are you frustrated or angered by a family member’s attitude or behavior? Are you guilty of spending time obsessing about it? Do you want to reduce the stress in your life? Then stop trying to change others and focus on the one and only thing you can change – YOU.
Remember when you point the finger at someone there are three fingers pointing back at you. As stepparents, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking we’re powerless and victims of circumstances. This kind of thinking reinforces our beliefs that we must fix, control and change everything for our own benefit.
Deluding ourselves that once we successfully change things, everything will be right with the world, we will feel better and may even be better finding peace and happiness. Instead by concentrating our energies on changing ourselves, we will influence others to change by our example. Focusing on changing yourself will lead to a happier and more contented life.
