When you tie the knot, there may be many different factors in play. You possibly were living together for a while, or perhaps you have just moved in. Maybe you both moved to a new place or conceivably you’re in a spot where you’re starting a business together.
Those changes make sense, but what about the changes you didn’t see coming? Marriage can change a lot of things, so make sure you consider them.
Questions Change
Don’t think you are going to get a break from the prying questions. Instead of asking when you are going to get married, people are going to start asking when you are planning to have kids. It doesn’t matter what you answer. These questions are just going to keep coming, so be prepared.
Make sure you have a good response for these people. Try not to take it too seriously. It’s people’s nature to ask questions. You have the right to your opinions and your own wants and desires.
Embarrassment Becomes Less Important
When you are dating someone, embarrassment is a serious thing. Suddenly you are worried whether they will see you in the same light if you trip and fall flat on your face.
With marriage comes the security you have the ability to be as silly as you want, and things will still be okay. In many ways, this allows you to be more yourself. It gives you the certainty the person you are with is going to be with you for the long haul.
You Become More Experimental
Not only does this include things you do in the bedroom, but it also includes things like your professional and social lives. You are moving forward as a unit. That means you have someone who’s there to catch you.
Suddenly you can take risks that you have never been able to take before, and that can change a lot of the way you see things.
You Have to Set Boundaries
Relationships all change, and when you are thinking about becoming a permanent couple, things are now in an entirely new place. Make sure you set new boundaries just regarding what’s changed with your relationship.
Depending on who you are and what you want, some of those boundaries are going to be very different, but some of the boundaries are going to stay just as they are. Getting married is a time to reevaluate what’s going on and how you want to move forward.
Single Friends Start to Drift Away
One of the biggest things that you will see after the wedding is your social group is going to change. Suddenly, some of the people you were once close to are going to have less and less in common with you, while you find you have more in common with people who are currently married.
This is a natural thing, but it can feel a little distressing at the beginning. Take a moment to think about who you were talking to recently, and how you can make sure you are still getting out and seeing the people you care about.
Getting married is a big step, and after you have done so, in many cases, it often feels as if things have changed a lot. Not only does your relationship change, but you will also find the way you are seen and the way people interact with you will change as well. Take a moment to account for these changes, and to really see what they mean to you!
Please read another article by Marcie,”How To Get Your Partner To Consider Relationship Counseling.”
