Adivorce can be a very difficult time in a person’s life. When you have children involved, it can be a complex situation that should be handled with great care.
While going through a divorce can be a stressful time, there are a few things you can do to reduce its impact on your daily life. Here are just a few tips to make sure this transition goes a little smoother and less stressful.
Seek Legal Advice
Contact a divorce lawyer that can answer any legal questions or concerns you may have. There may be a consultation fee for this meeting, but at least you will know where you stand.
Find out what the attorney fee is to start processing your divorce papers. In some situations you can split the attorney fee with your spouse if they agree to the divorce terms. It’s important to seek legal advice so you know your rights and help speed up the process.
Speak Positive
If children are involved, try to speak positive things about your spouse around the kids, especially when you are communicating with family and friends. Sometimes speaking negative things about your spouse can backfire on you.
Instead of the children agreeing with you, they may resent you later. Allow them to naturally make a decision without the negative influence. Even if children aren’t involved, it’s best not to say negative things about the other person that could hurt family members or friends and ruin relationships.
Do Not Isolate
Sometimes when you’re going through a difficult situation, you may try to isolate yourself from loved ones and friends. This is not a good idea.
Family and friends will help you get through this difficult time. Don’t shut them out. You may find yourself feeling depressed. This is the time to allow your loved ones to shield you and lift your spirits up.
Take Care of Yourself
Do something nice for yourself. This may help lift your self-esteem. Life is not over because of a divorce. Maybe treating yourself to a movie, dinner, or purchasing a new outfit to wear may give you a self-esteem boost.
You can also relieve some stress by exercising. If you have a physical fitness goal you have been wanting to reach, this may be the perfect time to concentrate on you.
Seek Counseling
If you feel you need counseling from a psychologist or counselor, call a local office and set up an appointment. You can talk to them and it is a private consultation.
It is nothing to be embarrassed about if you need to express your feelings. Sometimes additional help is needed to get through a tough time in a person’s life.
Stay Active
Stay active by participating in things you love to do. This will help keep your mind off of the divorce. Search for volunteer opportunities for community outreach programs. Sometimes being able to help others in their time of need, may help you feel better.
It doesn’t matter much what you do, but it’s important to stay consistent and keep active. When you sit at home alone, it’s easy for depression to set it and feeling a loss of hope. When you stay involved, your focus goes to something else instead of feeling bad for yourself.
Remember healing from a divorce takes time. Your days of hurt will eventually pass and with it a return to days of joy. Take life one day at a time, enjoy today and try not to panic. Sometimes when we try to overload ourselves with the cares of tomorrow, we get overwhelmed.
Informational credit to Kitchen Simeson Belliveau LLP.
If you are considering divorce please read the following articles on counseling: Marriage Counseling – Key to Saving Marriages and Counseling – Catalyst for Healing Broken Marriages.
